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Depression: Recognizing Depression and Getting the Help You need


Happy international women’s day!!

Its great to have you back on the blog and I’m really excited for this post because it is something that I have always wanted to talk about especially because I battled depression for so many years. I really want to lay emphasis on the fact that one of the major factors that helped me embrace happiness is that I wasn’t in denial and I acknowledged that I was depressed and I looked for solutions to make me better.


It is normal to be down from time to time but when you realize that you never leave that state of being sad or you are constantly moody and feel emotions such as hopelessness then maybe you are depressed. Depression makes it hard to enjoy life and appreciate all the good that the world has to offer. It is very important to note that when you understand the cause of your depression and the symptoms then you are taking the first great step to feeling better and overcoming the problem.


Depression is a serious mood disorder and it is caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental and psychological factors. My first trait of depression hit me as far back as primary school. Depression can start at any age but majority begins at adulthood. A lot of people think they have regular mood swings and I was guilty until I realized I was truly depressed.


Here are 9 common symptoms of depression but note that it varies from person to person;

  1. Appetite/ Weight changes: You will begin to encounter significant weight loss or gain.
  2. Loss of interest in daily activities: You suddenly don’t care about hobbies or social activities.
  3. Having feeling of helplessness and hopelessness: You just come to a phase of nothing will ever get better.
  4. Anger: You are constantly angry and your tolerance level is low. I remember in university I got so angry and kept malice with one of my best friends because she went to class earlier than me and didn’t keep space for me, like wow! I remember the whole situation and I’m so grateful for growth.
  5. Concentration problems: You have trouble focusing, making decisions or remembering things.
  6. Loss of energy
  7. Aches and pains: Having constant headache, back pains and body pains.
  8. Sleep changes: You constantly battle insomnia.
  9. Reckless behaviour: You engage in escape behavior such as smoking, drinking, gambling etc.

I decided not to entirely cover all the areas of depression in one post because I intend to have more engaging posts on the topic.

The first phase to conquer whatever problem you’re going through is to acknowledge that you have that problem and when you do, other things will fall in place. If you have been constantly experiencing atleast 4 of the symptoms stated above then it’s okay to acknowledge that you are depressed and need help. I’ll be sharing the types of depression in my next post and I hope this helps you in some way.

I will also have segments where I get to answer questions that are sent to me to help whoever needs clarification and so if you want me to answer your questions, please send an email to I cannot wait to hear from you.

Did you find this blog post helpful? Please drop a comment in the comment section as I love to hear from you. Have a great day.

Love T.

11 thoughts on “Depression: Recognizing Depression and Getting the Help You need

  1. S/o to @Tbankz for this nice piece. ‘The first phase to conquering your problems is to admit you have that problem’


  2. I read this post from the beginning to the very end! Thank you for willing to talk more about this because you have experienced it and you are willing to help people. Can’t wait to read the rest of the blog post series.



  3. after reading the symptoms, I am now thinking about my life,and I can say that I have suffered from depression in the past,and struggle everyday not to go down that hole again. I remember that no one around me that time was able to help me. Instead,they were scolding me,but from a place of love.
    Anyways,I look forward to the rest of the posts on this issue.
    Good work T. Well done.


    1. I’m so sorry you had to go through it without support from anyone. I actually never got so much support from anyone too but maybe because I never even told anyone about it. I’m glad you’re in a happy place now and thank you so much for sharing. If you need me to answer any questions please message me.!


    1. Thank you babe. You just said what has always been on my mind. A lot of people are suffering because no one believes that an African should suffer or go through depression. Thank you for the nice words


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